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Stressed at Work? Here are 10 Ways to Fix It

Category : Personal growth

Stressed at Work? Here are 10 Ways to Fix It

Every job—no matter how ideal it may be–comes with some minor hiccups and blocks in the road. Here are ten creative ways to reboot and recharge no matter what may be stressing you out at work, so that you can be as productive as possible!

1. Eat Healthy!

I once worked at a job where EVERY Friday was “Food Friday.” It should have been called “Fat Friday.” Keep yourself sharp by avoiding any type of office food, unless it’s fresh and full of protein and fiber.

DEFINITELY refuse to eat any food out a vending machine. Instead, focus on prepared or pre-packaged, non-processed foods you bring from home—apples with peanut butter, unsalted nuts, hummus with vegetables, whole grain bread with turkey and cheese, crackers and almond butter, fresh fruit, etc. Keep a few healthy snacks stored in airtight containers in your desk, so that you aren’t tempted to raid the vending machine.

Try not to drink more than 2–3 cups of coffee in a day. Anything more and you’ll become dehydrated, causing you to eat more than you should.

2. Find Some Quiet Time

Resist the temptation to work through lunch—it will only add to your stress level.

Instead, find an empty room and close the door. Even if you just have five minutes, this little meditation can help.

Sit still, breathe in and out, close your eyes and picture yourself on the beach. Imagine hearing the seagulls flying overhead, and the white sand warming up your toes. Dip your feet in the water, and watch the waves go over your feet and crash upon your shins.

As each little wave hits you, repeat this affirmation: “With each wave, I am being rejuvenated in mind, body and soul. As I look out at the ocean, I see the big picture of my life, and it is beautiful, serene and prosperous.”

3. Find Your Mantra!

Repeating things to yourself over and over again can really help. When I was in graduate school and would get frustrated over my lack of progress, I would say to myself over and over, “Baby steps. Baby steps.”

Maybe one of these mantras will help you.

“This minute is a tiny drop in my entire career. I will enjoy what it teaches me, and rise above it!”

“I am skilled at _______. As I recognize my talent, so do my co-workers and boss.”

“Every time I go the extra mile, I am will be rewarded financially.”

4. Avoid Overtime, and Leave on Time!

One surefire way to become stressed is to stay past quitting time and work late into the night to prove to yourself (or your boss) that you can take it all on—even with less sleep. Occasional overtime may be necessary, but don’t make it a habit!

Use overtime sparingly, and only when it’s necessary for a deadline of completing a large project. If you’re just sending out a few more emails, they can wait.

Also, make sure you aren’t giving up your time for free. If you stay late because you have to, make sure you are getting paid for that time. If they won’t pay you to stay late, DON’T DO IT!

5. Make a List!

Don’t bother relying on your brain to keep track of every detail. Making lists allows your brain to relax, knowing you’ve got it all “remembered” on your list!

Cross off tasks as you complete them—it will instantly make you feel like you’re being a proactive accomplisher!

6. Rise Above the Gossip

You don’t like to be gossiped about, so don’t participate in gossiping about anybody else. Did you know office gossip can even get you fired?

Show your boss (and everyone around you) that you’re positive and energetic by leaving the gossip to others.

Caught in a gossip session you can’t get out of? Change the topic casually, as if you have something pressing to talk to everyone about.

7. Build Up Your Savings

The thought of being laid off unexpectedly causes some people to be unduly stressed while at work.

Start a savings account with the goal of building up at least three months’ worth of expenses. That may sound impossible, but if you don’t start at all it will definitely not happen!

Even if you just save a dollar a day, that will still be $365 dollars in a savings account at the end of a year.

Limit your anxiety by having enough to get you through—continue focusing on the great performance you’re doing at work, and enjoy having a savings account that continues to grow.

8. Breathe Deep!

Deep breathing improves brain function, job performance, and energy levels, plus it helps you make smarter food choices!

Take time to notice your breathing when you email coworkers, listen to your boss, focus on your meeting notes, and take your client out to lunch.

Breathing helps you stay calm in stressful situations—use deep breathing throughout your day, and you’ll de-stress with each breath you take.

9. Slay the Beast!

Make a list every day of the top three things you need to accomplish that day, then do the HARDEST one first. Once that’s out of the way, you’ll have a huge load off your shoulders AND the confidence to handle the next task on your list.

10. Find Your Happy Place

Visualizations force your attention to be somewhere happy, instead of focused on the stress of your workload.

Breathe in and out, close your eyes, and imagine the sights, sounds and smells of your “happy place.” Feel instantly lighter after a few minutes of visualizing where you want to be!

A Few Last Words

Why struggle to work harder when you can just work smarter? Whatever the cause of your stress at work, breathing deeply, making effective to-do lists, and visualizations can all decrease your stress—guaranteed!

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Secrets to Overcoming Adversity

Category : Personal growth

Secrets to Overcoming Adversity

Everyone struggles with one thing or another, and no one’s life is perfect. Adversity is something everyone deals with, and it can really take a toll on our confidence, belief in ourselves, careers, relationships, and happiness.

You can make things easier on yourself when troubles do arise by using a few key strategies. Use the following when you have challenges, and become better, stronger, and more resilient than ever before!

Focus on the Goal (Not the Hardship)

Try to avoid obsessively thinking about the negative hardship that has affected your life. Instead, make it a mission to yourself to overcome adversity, conquer it and become a mentor or role model for everyone else facing hardship.

Focus on the good it has brought you: perhaps it brought you closer to family for support, caring friends, an opportunity to seek out resources and think outside of the box, a chance to start over single with no one to worry about but yourself, greater willpower and resilience, etc.

It also sometimes helps to be grateful for how good you do have it. Have a flat tire? Well, at least I have a job and can get it fixed. Lost your job? Well, at least I have family who loves me. Etc.

Make a List of Your Accomplishments (and Read It Daily)

Overcome adversity by writing lists—every morning, write down every accomplishment you’ve made, or all the good things you have to be thankful for in your life. Re-read it several times throughout the day or right before going to bed at night.

Keep another list of your goals. How do you want this hardship to resolve itself? Write down ideas you have about reaching each goal.

Create a vision board—include positive images of your future, inspirational quotes, and old pictures that bring out feelings of happiness in you.

Everything Passes—Including the Tough Stuff

This too shall pass. Don’t let your brain fall into the trap of thinking this will last forever. It won’t. (Note: If you’d tried to tell me that right after I had lost a dear loved one and had my home destroyed, I would 1) not have believed you and 2) wanted to smack you! But you know what? It really did pass.)

Look forward to the future—everything you have the ability to accomplish, the things you want to see, the people you want to meet, the career you want to have.

Here’s an affirmation to use: “This moment is meant to teach me something important. When the lesson has been learned, the hardship will pass, and greater things are in store. I can’t wait to see what wonderful things will happen!”

Go with Your Gut

Go through the motions of this challenging time, and listen to yourself (forget everyone else).
What feels right as you go about your day, and what doesn’t feel right? Are you taking steps to improve your attitude, or are you surrounding yourself with people who pull you down?

Slow down, be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself time to process what has happened. Focus on what YOU need, and not what other people want.

Laugh about Something Every Day

Tears and laughter are closely related. Try your best to laugh at least once a day, and you’ll take away some of the seriousness of your situation—laugh multiple times in a day, and you’ll heal quickly from the emotional pain.

Pull out old photos from when you were young and crazy (and laugh at your hair from two decades ago!).
Find a funny movie, or even a funny video clip online. Just find something that makes you laugh!

A Few Last Thoughts

Give thanks for all you’ve learned up to this point and all you will continue to learn—including right now in this very moment.

As you learn how to laugh about the harder moments of life and beat those negative thoughts to a pulp with powerful, positive thoughts, you will get through the rough patches with less and less effort and struggle. This too shall pass!

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Is It Really Possible to Forgive and Forget?

Category : Personal growth

Is It Really Possible to Forgive and Forget?

While you may not be able to forget the pain that someone or something has caused you, it is possible to forgive. Forgiveness is essential for your own growth and evolution as a person, and helpful to the person who has harmed you as well. Learn about what forgiveness really means, and how to get to the point of forgiveness so that you can bring more happiness into your life as a result.

What Is Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is the ability to fully accept someone’s wrongdoing; to let go of anger, resentment, and hate; to say goodbye to feelings of negativity and say hello to a lighter and happier way of being.

Release Anyone Who Has Harmed You

Most people spend years holding onto past hurts and pains. YEARS! Often, the person who committed the wrongdoing doesn’t even know you are holding a grudge, so the only person that hurts is you.

Focus positively on your intention of putting aside the pain and anger.

Repeat this affirmation: “I accept what has been done. I release you from my life now, and I release my anger and frustration.”

He/She Is Your Teacher

Beneath the pain, there’s always a life lesson that plays out—look for what he/she inadvertently taught you, and begin to focus on that lesson instead of the pain of the memory.

Maybe the lesson is to be more selective of whom you trust and whom you don’t, or maybe the lesson is to improve how well you communicate with someone.

If someone broke something of yours, maybe the lesson is to not be so concerned over your possessions, or maybe it’s to be more careful about whom you loan things to!

Lessons aren’t always EASY to learn, but they can and often do show up in the form of someone doing something that makes you angry. Everyone and everything is a lesson, and the hardest lessons bring about the toughest teachers.

Practice the Light Switch of Resentment and Jealousy

This quick and easy visualization can help you control your emotions. Use it any time you need to forgive someone and are having a hard time doing so

When thoughts of anger pop in, close your eyes and imagine a light switch in the “off” position. Now imagine turning the light switch to “on,” and fix that negative thought to be something positive about the person, or what he/she contributed to your life in a good way.

Open your eyes, and feel better about yourself and the choices you’ve made!

A Few Last Words

Forgiveness usually isn’t something that can happen overnight. When you commit to having a positive attitude, you can eventually be grateful that what they’ve done to you has allowed you an opportunity to grow, and you will reach a point of forgiveness. Use these suggestions to get you there as quickly as you are ready for it.

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Change Your Attitude, and Change Your Life!

Category : Personal growth

Change Your Attitude, and Change Your Life!

Changing your attitude is crucial if you want to find more happiness. It’s not what’s “out there” that matters, but what you think about yourself that changes the world. So, what are you going to do about it? Feel better about yourself and the world you live in by using any number of these tips, and create a blissful life as a result!

1. Belt it Out!

When stressed, worried or overcome by a person’s negative reaction to something you’ve said or done, think of a song that makes you happy and play it immediately in your head! Better yet, turn it on and sing along!

This can be any song that evokes feelings of pleasure, happiness or laughter. What song from your childhood makes your smile?

This has the potential to shift your mood from grumpy to glad immediately!

2. Be Grateful

Make a list of at least ten things you are grateful for, and read it often—especially first thing in the morning, and right before going to bed.

Focus on giving thanks for everything you have in your life—big and small—that you love and want more of!

3. Walk It Off

Studies show that getting moderate exercise (such as a brisk walk) outdoors is the best and healthiest mood booster around!

Immerse yourself in nature—go somewhere like a park or a nature preserve that will give you plenty of fresh air and scenery.

4. Breathe Deeply

Breathing can improve your circulation, decrease stress, increase brain function, and boost your mood exponentially.

Give yourself an instant boost by by closing your eyes, inhaling for a count to three, and exhaling. A proper deep breath consists of filling your belly up (like a balloon) rather than taking shallow breaths that only move your chest and shoulders.  Repeat this for five full minutes. Listening to music you love while doing this can really help, too!

5. Smile

It takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown, so smile more!

Smiling can perk up your mood instantly, because the act of smiling makes your body release endorphins that make you feel happier. It’s a great trick, and it works.

The very act of smiling can perk up someone else’s mood, too.

6. Make Yourself Laugh

Laughter really is the best medicine. Find anything that will make you laugh—a video clip, a funny book—and use it!

7. Volunteer

Get outside of yourself and your own thoughts—help someone in need instead!

Tutor inner-city children, offer to help at the local library, help at the soup kitchen—whatever it is that sparks interest and passion in you is a great choice, and helps others immensely. Heck, even the simple act of helping out a co-worker who is stuck can make you feel better.

8. Be Kind

Performing a random act of kindness for someone instantly changes your mood!

Give someone your seat on the bus, pick up something that someone dropped, or help someone by digging out exact change for them at the checkout line…just watch his or her face light up! Don’t forget to smile!

9. Be a Kid

Hang out with children more often. They are the essence of joy, happiness, and bliss, staying in the now and doing what they enjoy moment to moment!

Read them a story, ask them questions, and enjoy being in their presence, as they can remind you what a true optimistic attitude is about!

10. Give Yourself the Present

Remember that worrying about or fearing the future doesn’t do anything good for the present moment—you can’t control the past, you can only control right now.

Your thoughts are vital to your wellbeing and happiness. Focus on the thought you have right now, and then everything will fall into place.

11. Learn Something New

Ever had a hankering to play the guitar, or to learn to fish? Spread your creative wings with something new—painting, cooking delicious stir-fry dishes, writing poetry, etc.

Enjoy discovering a part of yourself you never previously knew about!

12. Run Your Heart Out

Get in the endorphin-packed trance of the runner’s high—an instant mood booster!

Not a runner? Doesn’t matter! Everyone can learn to run. Start slowly, with the help of a plan such as “Couch to 5k” (

Running will help you look good and feel great. What’s not to like?

13. Write it Down

Journaling gives you some time to reflect. It’s a great way to wind down, clarify challenges that lie ahead, or express yourself in a healthy way.

Treat yourself to a nice journal, and use it to write your thoughts daily. Add in visuals such as old photos, pictures from magazines, etc.

A Few Last Words

As often as negativity surrounds us, and as busy as your life may be, all it really takes to have a positive outlook on life is a smile, some random acts of love, and re-centering yourself to appreciate the moment you’re in. Become happier instantly by applying any of these tips to your life, and you’ll see the world for what it truly is—beautiful, splendid and good!

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How to Use Affirmations with the Law of Attraction

Category : Law of attraction

How to Use Affirmations with the Law of Attraction

To affirm means to declare what is already present. When you use affirmations, you are declaring to yourself and the universe that your desire is present, that your mind is made up, and that there is only one possible outcome. As you continue to focus on and repeat your affirmations, you will find that they become your reality.

Affirmations serve many purposes when trying to manifest the things you want. Applying the law of attraction can sometimes seem daunting, because you may feel as though you have to think upbeat positive thoughts 24/7. It’s almost impossible to monitor your thoughts twenty four hours a day, but when you create clear affirmations, with details, they become a great tool in controlling your thoughts and in turn influencing the law of attraction in your favor.

Here are three ways to use affirmations with your law of attraction practice to get great results.

How to Use Affirmations

1. The first step to using affirmations is to become very clear about what you want.

Think about what it is that you want. A new house A new job? A new car? Can you be more specific? What kind of car? What make? What model? How much does it cost? The more specific you can be, the more likely you will be to get what you want.

As an example, say you find a magic lamp and a genie grants you one wish. You ask for a new car, and get a brand new Matchbox car! It is a new car, right? Obviously, the genie can do a much better job of granting your wish if you are very specific about what you want. Next time, try asking for a 2015 Toyota Prius Plug-in Hybrid in winter pearl color with all-weather floor mats, a cargo net, and alloy wheel nuts. (Hey, even if you’re not a Prius fan, it’s better than a Matchbox car, right?)

BE SPECIFIC! The clearer you are about your intentions the more power you give to your affirmations.

2. Your affirmations should be written, should be in first person, should be positive, and should state your desire as if it is already complete.

Let’s go through each of these:

WRITTEN. Seriously. Write. Them. Down. You are more likely to achieve your goals when they are written down, and affirmations are really just goals in a nutshell, right? Write them down.

FIRST PERSON. That’s easy enough. You’re not writing affirmations for your Aunt Lucy, here. Write them for you.

POSITIVE. Rather than saying, “I don’t want to be fat,” rephrase it into something positive, such as, “I am trim and healthy.” Instead of “I’m not poor,” try, “I am wealthy.” Avoid using words like don’t, not, no, etc.

STATED AS THOUGH YOUR DESIRE IS COMPLETE. If every day you say to yourself, “I am going to be rich!” Then every day you will be telling your subconscious mind that you are going to be rich at some point in the future, and every day your subconscious will decide it doesn’t need to do anything about it.

Then again, if you say to yourself, “I am rich!” it can sometimes be hard to make yourself believe it, because it’s so foreign to you.

How do you get around that? One way is to set a timeline. For example, you could say, “By the time I am 35, I will have $100,000 in the bank.” Another way is to affirm small steps, such as, “Every day I add to my net worth. By the time I am 35, I will have saved $100,000.”

3. Move into the affirmation with feeling.

Feeling adds power to your desires. Feelings generate an internal energy that allows your whole being to absorb your statement.

If you’re finding your affirmations aren’t helping you as much as you’d like, consider the possibility that you’ve become stuck in an energetic pattern. You’re just used to how things are, and it’s hard to believe any differently.

One technique that may be helpful is to first think about a time when you felt the feeling that you are trying to achieve, then say your affirmation. For example, say you want to exercise more, but right now you are feeling dumpy and couch potatoey. (It “potatoey” isn’t a word, it should be.) Before you say your exercise affirmations–because, let’s face it, if you said them now you would be thinking “yeah right” the whole time–let’s change your mind to think about a time when you DID feel healthy and energetic. Maybe it was the way you felt when you ran your first mile last week. Think about that. Sit with that feeling, and try to relive that feeling. THEN start your affirmations.

There are many more techniques and tools for using affirmations successfully. These are just a few, but we hope that gets you started with how to use affirmations!

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Raise Your Vibration to Improve Your Life

Category : Law of attraction

Raise Your Vibration to Improve Your Life

If you want more joy, love and happiness in your life, change your thoughts! If you want to attract more good to your life, you must resonate at a frequency that good things can align with. When you think thoughts of negativity, fear or anger, you operate at a low vibration and dismiss the good from coming your way. So, take a powerful dose of life success by raising your vibration—and learn how to do that in this article!

The Basics of Vibrations

Remember that thing Einstein said? E=mc2 or something? Yeah, that! That equation tells us that ALL matter, including ourselves, is made up of energy. In our case, that energy can be harnessed by the power of our thoughts. We are the thoughts we think, both consciously and unconsciously.

When you think thoughts of love, kindness, respect and gratitude, you raise your vibrations. When you think of fear, anxiety, worry or anger, you lower your vibrations.

High vibrations make it easier to attract and receive what you want in life; low vibrations make it difficult to receive good things in your life.

Some Ways to Improve Your Thoughts

You are who you surround yourself with. Pay attention to the attitudes of those whom you spend the most time with—friends, family members, neighbors, co-workers. Are they positive or negative? Do they gossip or lift your spirits up with laughter? Choose to spend time with people who raise your vibration.

Detox. This will have a huge impact on clearing your thoughts. Eliminate or limit the following from your diet: processed foods, animal products, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, and any pesticides or artificial foods.

Meditate. Sometimes difficult to start, it’s addicting once it becomes a habit! Meditation allows you to connect to your higher self (free of ego) and listen for any messages you receive from the Divine, or your inner wisdom. This will help improve positive thoughts significantly!

Visualization for Achieving Life Success

Create positive energy and positive thoughts by visualizing every day what you want to make a reality. For example, visualize going through your work day with ease (no fires to put out!), greeting people with a big smile, and receiving a workload that you can easily handle.

Imagine eating clean and healthy, with foods that make your body feel replenished and strong. Imagine feeling blessed by all of the wonderful people in your life, and going home feeling personally satisfied at the end of the day.

Take a few minutes in the morning, at lunch, and right before you go to bed to form a thorough picture in your mind of your ideal life, and the things that bring you happiness.

Affirmations to Raise Your Vibrational State

Affirmations are positive statements that set your intention for the day, week, or minute.

They are great tools to use in the morning, when you need to focus on positive thoughts instead of worrying what the day will bring.

Attach them to your bedroom mirror, dashboard, or laptop computer to remind you throughout your day of the energy you want to send out to the world, which will then come back multiplied.

Use these affirmations or create your own. They should be positive, short, and easy for you to remember.

“I do not worry about things I can’t control.”

“I treat my body with respect, love and balance.”

“I make health a priority in my life, daily.”

“I have a rich life, with multiple streams of income and supportive love all around me.”

“I see happiness everywhere I go, and offer valuable contributions to the world.”

Some Last Thoughts

While the world around us can be overwhelmingly negative at times, you can create your own bliss with the thoughts you think, and attract more goodness than you realize by raising your vibration. From visualizations to affirmations, it takes some practice, but it will soon feel like a habit!

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The 11 Forgotten Laws by Bob Proctor

Category : Law of attraction

The 11 Forgotten Laws by Bob Proctor

Bob Proctor, an expert on the Law of Attraction and one of the key figures in the movie The Secret, believes that the Law of Attraction is incomplete, and he has revealed what gives the Law its real power.


the11forgottenlawsprogramWhen The Secret was first released in 2006, it brought the Law of Attraction to the attention of many people worldwide, yet the movie amplifies all the less vital information in the name of sensationalism. As a result, the Law of Attraction brand many people know today is a watered down, less powerful version of the real thing. Bob Proctor himself describes the movie as “pop culture fluff”!

The Law of Attraction has been around a long time, yet people continually fail to grasp it. Earl Nightingale, the father of the personal growth industry, planted the seed for the Law of Attraction movement when he said, “We become what we think about.”

That was Bob’s mantra for a long time. “We become what we think about” is the Law of Attraction in its most primal form.

And even though it worked to some extent, Bob still wasn’t achieving all that he desired. No matter how much he used the Law of Attraction, he kept getting stuck in debt and wasn’t moving forward in life the way he thought he deserved.

Then in 1961, Bob stumbled on the secret that really exploded the full power of the Law of Attraction. He met up with an acquaintance at a local coffee-house, and that meeting changed his life. He discovered that day that not all teachings on the Law of Attraction are created equal.


Many books on the Law of Attraction offer only a part of the truth, but they make it sound as though they are the final word on the subject. The unfortunate side effect of this is that people like you and me end up not believing in the Law of Attraction as a result.

If you’ve had trouble believing in the Law of Attraction, or getting it to work for you, Bob Proctor will change that all for you with his fantastic new audio course, The 11 Forgotten Laws. Proctor, together with best-selling author Mary Manin Morrissey, answers the question why the Law of Attraction may not be working for you.

If you’ve never heard Bob Proctor speak, he is a force to be reckoned with.  I have had the privilege of hearing him speak on two occasions, and both times he had everyone in the room (which was well over a thousand people each time) totally inspired and motivated.  His audio courses bring that same knowledge and inspiration to you.

The 11 Forgotten Laws is an audio training set of 95 tracks that cover each of the laws in detail, including what you must do to put them into practice. This set contains everything you need to start making the Law of Attraction work for you.

The comprehensive audio training is combined with a step-by-step online workbook that will help guide you through your transformational change.

If you want to take control of your life, and you don’t want to waste time fumbling around and making mistakes, then The 11 Forgotten laws is what you’ve been looking for.  I highly recommend it!



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10 Surprising Habits of Happy People

Category : Happiness

10 Surprising Habits of Happy People

Have you ever known someone who is perpetually happy? How do they do it, day in and day out? Do they have something you and I don’t? Well, no. And yes. Their circumstances are probably no better than anyone else’s, but they cultivate the habits that encourage happiness.

Mastering just one of these habits of happy people can hugely improve your outlook!

1. Know That This Moment Is All You Have

You can’t do anything to change the past, and we have no guarantee that the future will even arrive! So stop thinking about the past, or worrying about the future—focus on today, and today only.

It’s amazing how much time we waste worrying about the future or the past, and we fail to notice that nine times (or more) out of ten, if we stop to pay attention, in any given moment we are actually just fine. Remember that, and try to enjoy the small details of your day, such as sipping a perfect cup of coffee, talking to your family, and moving through your day with ease.

This single moment is where happiness is—how happy you are in it is all up to you!

2. Be Grateful for Each Second

If you find it difficult to “enjoy the moment,” focus on giving thanks for what you have, right now. For one, you have internet access if you’re reading this. Do you know how fortunate that makes you? And if you are online, chances are you are inside, with a roof over your head, warm, etc.

And that’s just the beginning! Are you healthy? Do you have friends and family? A job? Practice being grateful for all that you have, and you will find that happiness comes to you more easily.

Give your appreciation to each moment—that will attract more good things to come!

3. Go to Your “Happy Place”

Pick your own happy place and redirect your energy and perspective to something that makes you feel good!

Your “happy place” can be anything—a person, place, or thing that improves the way you feel about yourself.  A beach, a quiet room, a walk with your sweetie…

When you are overwhelmed, take five minutes, breathe deeply, and visualize being there, taking in everything it offers.

4. Remember That the Only Things You Can Truly Control Are Your Thoughts

You can’t control what other people do, you can’t control the weather, and you can’t control all the random events that cross your path.

But you can control your reactions to those things.

Control your thoughts by simply noticing how you react to things.  Most of the time when we aren’t in control of our thoughts, it’s because we just aren’t paying attention to them.  Once you give your thoughts some thought, you’ll find them much easier to control.

5. Color!

Coloring isn’t just for kids.  It’s a great way for adults to de-stress, too!

Coloring puts you into a meditative state as it allows extraneous thoughts to flow out of your head and puts your focus on just one thing.

Don’t give yourself “rules” for coloring. Turn off your inner art critic and just let yourself go!

6. Let Fido Fix It

Dogs can perk your mood right up!  Everyone knows a good, slobbery dog kiss can really cut through a grumpy day.

Get a double dose of happiness by taking your dog for a walk in the fresh air.  Let him walk you for a change, and pay attention to what makes him tick.

Pretend you are experiencing the world from his perspective.  Dirt is amazing!  Look!  Squirrel!

7. Give Your Time Away

Give your time to others, and you’ll instantly feel happy.

Volunteer for any cause you’re passionate about—smile, and really try to get to know those you’re helping.

Focus on the difference you’re making in someone’s life, and make a monthly commitment (or whatever works with your schedule).

8. Get Excited Like a Toddler Does

Life too serious these days? Get down on the ground, and mimic what a child looks at and how he/she sees the world.

Laugh at the things children do, and be silly just because.

Try this: Lie down outside on your back, and stare up at the trees and sky! (The world looks fun from this angle!)

9. Write ‘Em A Nastygram

Is someone or something driving you nuts?  Write it out!

Address a letter to that person, or even to that situation, and tell it exactly how you feel!

Write freely, with no reservations about what you have to say.

Don’t censor yourself—the very act of writing can be a great way to purge negative feelings that prevent happiness.

After writing the letter, read it out loud and throw it away.  <–That part is pretty important, by the way.  Seriously.  Don’t send it.  Throw it away, and let it go.

10. Know Your Roots

Find someone in your family (an older relative such as a grandparent, uncle, or aunt) who can recall memories about his or her early life.

Learn about where you came from, and learn about life from someone else’s perspective. This is a rich way to learn about them, yourself, and the world.

Gain a fresh perspective by listening to their stories.  This will help you improve your own happiness and appreciation.

A Few Last Words …

Happiness is all about the feelings you generate within. Focus on developing your inner self, and don’t worry about what’s outside of you.  When you do, you’ll see that you hold the power over your own happiness!

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Waking Up in a Bad Mood? Start Waking Up Right!

Category : Happiness

Waking Up in a Bad Mood? Start Waking Up Right!

Waking up in a bad mood pretty much guarantees that you will face challenges and obstacles from sunup to sundown. This article lays out some easy ideas for vastly improving your mood.

The Benefits of Going to Bed Happy, Not Mad

If you go to bed happy and appreciative for everything that happened in your day and chances are you’ll feel relaxed and stress-free in the morning.

Being happy at bedtime improves your quality of sleep, increases your productivity for the next days’ work, gives you an increase in energy the next day, and even allows you to make healthier choices such as eating well (studies show that when you’re angry, depressed, or stressed, you’ll be more likely to eat high-carb and high-sugar foods).

How to be happy at bedtime?

Keep a Consistent Nighttime Schedule

Keeping a consistent nighttime schedule gets your body in the habit of knowing when it is time to wind down and go to sleep.  Like a grumpy toddler, your body isn’t happy when its sleep routine is disrupted.

Start by making sure that you can get a full 8 hours of sleep every night.

Before bed, give yourself some quality time, as opposed to time “zoned out” doing things like watching TV or surfing the internet.

Make your routine personalized, and do something that relaxes you so that you never go to bed angry. Focus on any activity that allows you to wind down and de-stress.

Nighttime Rituals for Improving Your Odds of Waking Up Happy

Take a bubble bath, write in your journal, or play some meditation or classical music.

Turn off the TV and computer at least one hour before going to bed.  Put away your phone and iPad.  The lights from those devices can confuse your body into thinking there is still daylight left.

Make sure that you stop eating at least two to three hours before going to bed (eating too late can cause insomnia).  Ditch the caffeine in the evening, too.

Take a hot shower, and visualize the clean, pure water that comes cascading down on your back and neck as replenishing you from your stress and anxiety. As you wash yourself clean, imagine the dirt coming off of your body as the stress, weight, and worry of your day rinsing down the drain, leaving you replenished and invigorated.

Read something positive right before going to bed (no more late-night TV).

Put a few drops of your favorite relaxing scent on your pillow, such as eucalyptus, lemon, or lavender.

Get rid of any work papers that are in your bedroom. They don’t belong there! Keep anything work-related (that includes your cellphone that has work emails or reminder notes) in a designated office space in your home; if you don’t have one, keep them confined to your briefcase. Studies show that doing work in bed promotes more anxiety, and if you’re making a habit of reading or writing emails late at night, you’re never turning yourself “off” from the stress and giving yourself a chance to unwind and rest.


When you set your day up for success by having a positive attitude and giving yourself a strict nighttime routine to help you unwind and reflect, you’ll keep yourself from waking up on the wrong side of the bed. Apply these tips in order to wake up joyful, grateful and happy every single morning!

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11 Reasons to Smile Your Way to Success

Category : Happiness

11 Reasons to Smile Your Way to Success

Did you know that the simple act of smiling can make you more successful? Read on for 11 reasons why …

1. A smile means you’re friendly.

If a stranger approached you, made eye contact, and then broke into a broad smile, you would have a fairly good idea that they were friendly and meant you no harm.

On the flip side, we would find it far more difficult to trust a grumpy, scowling stranger.  Or a grumpy, scowling coworker, for that matter!

2. A smile makes people happy.

When someone treats you to a smile, even a stranger, you usually smile back.  For that moment you both enjoy a flash of positive communication without even saying a word.

When you smile at someone, you have brought a moment of happiness into their lives which–who knows?–could last all day.  And people remember how you make them feel.

3. Smiling is infectious.

When you spend a lot in the company of someone who smiles a lot, you will soon discover that their smile starts to wear off on you.  It is hard not to return a smile; most of us do it at a subliminal level without thinking.

And if you can be the one who make other people smile all the time?  Success is practically guaranteed.

4. Smiling can make you popular.

Which type of people do you prefer? People who scowl and complain or people who smile and say nice things?

The choice is obvious. If you want people to like you, smile more!

5. A smile is usually returned.

When someone smiles back at you it make you feel good inside. You have just made a short but very positive communication and possibly the first step in the process of getting to know or making friends with someone new.

6. Smiling makes you positive and happy inside.

Even if you aren’t happy, the physical act of smiling actually makes you feel happier.  So if you smile more often, you will actually become a happier person.

7. A smile makes you look far more attractive.

You don’t see many celebrities or media personalities that are not smiling.  If you did, it is fairly certain that their popularity would quickly start to drop!

8. Smiling makes you stand out.

Have you noticed that smiling people are usually far more memorable than those that are not? You are 3 times more likely to remember a person that is smiling over one that is wearing a negative or neutral features.

9. Smiling is good for your health.

Smiling can release the stress, worry, and tension that you have built up throughout the day. Long term, developing the smiling habit will be one of the smartest things that you can do to improve most aspects of your life. Health is wealth!

10. The effects of smiling can last for hours.

Smiling puts you in a positive frame of mind. When you are in a positive state, you have far more potential and power to advance and improve your life.

11. Smiling is FREE!

You are never going to run short of smiles, and they don’t cost a thing.

A Few Last Words …

When you weigh up the positive points of smiling, it is a no-brainer decision to smile more often.  Keep smiling!


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